Seven Ways To Support A Friend In Need

We all struggle sometimes.

When you're on the other side of it, it can be hard to know what to say or do when a friend is going through it. While there should be no 'right' or 'wrong' way to support a friend, there are things that are gentler and more likely to prove helpful.

Here are seven ways to support a friend in need.

Active Listening

To listen, really listen- is an art. Active listening means suspending our own judgements and thoughts and holding space for our friend. Try to remain a neutral and open vessel.

Validate Feelings

Even if it seems they are 'catastrophizing', support them in however big it feels to them. Let them feel their feelings freely without minimizing.

Ask Questions

Asking open-ended questions can help encourage reflection and shift perspective.
Examples: Could there be another way to view this situation? How did you come to this conclusion?

Be Thoughtful

Thoughtful gestures can help brighten their day. Sending an encouraging text, making a meal, or going on a walk with them can help lighten the load.

Give A Hug

Never underestimate the power of a hug. Hugs communicate safety to the nervous system. The can bring comfort and console- and warm the heart of both parties.

Show Support

Remind them they are not alone in this, by showing empathy and compassion. Let them know you are there when they need you.

Offer Encouragement

While it may be tough to resist, refrain from giving unsolicited advice for a fix-all approach. It's great to offer hope for resolution and a brighter future ahead.